Someone you know has decided to foster children in your community. It’s a very exciting and overwhelming time for all parties involved. There are a few ways you can help support them as they begin this new chapter in their lives.
Pray for them! Anyone can do this regardless of your relationship with the foster family. Pray daily! Pray from a smooth transition, pray for God’s will and pray for peace for everyone involved, especially the children!
Bring them dinner! When my husband and I received our first foster placement my mom set up a meal train with our friends and family for a full week! It was so helpful! While we were adjusting to parenthood and connecting with our new little man, the last thing I wanted to do was cook dinner! It was the perfect opportunity for everyone to meet our new addition while enjoying a hot meal that we didn’t have to cook!
Help them get organized! My house exploded when our four and a half month old arrived. There was stuff everywhere! I had no idea where anything was. I was in a panic every time he cried because I couldn’t find his bottles, diapers or wipes! I desperately needed someone to hold baby boy for an hour or two while I straightened up or to help me stock his changing table with the necessities.
Offer to babysit, even if that means sitting in their living room for a few hours! Our little man screamed for the first few nights after he came to live with us. What I would have given to lay in bed and watch a TV show on my DVR or catch a couple hours of sleep!
Don’t ask too many questions! Every foster placement is different. Each child has their own story. It’s not our place to disclose every single detail with family and friends. I promise we’ll share what we can when we’re ready to. Nine times out of ten I’d rather someone ask how we’re adjusting as a family than explain why our kids are in the foster system and what their case plan looks like.
Love on our foster placements! Yes, attachment is scary! Loving a child that may one day be reunited with their birth parents can be hard, even on you! I'm so thankful that my friends and family love our little guy as if he were our own biological son. He will always know that we as a whole love him! No matter where life takes him, he will know what a community feels like. What love means and the true definition of family.
Listen! I can't tell you how many times I've called my mom or my best friend to vent. I have cried, screamed, cussed and begged for help during some of those calls. I'm so thankful that they are there to listen, to tell me it will all be okay and to reassure me when I feel like giving up. A strong support system is a must for every foster family!
As a foster mom myself I just want to thank you for supporting a foster family in your community! We need all the help we can get, it truly takes a village!
Jesus lover, wife, momma, teacher, and hopeful writer.