One year already?! Where has the time gone? I guess time does fly when you're having fun. And I wouldn't want to take this ride with anyone else.
Not only has the last year been a whirlwind, but really the last two years. A quick recap for those of you unfamiliar with our story:
Needless to say, January/August are milestone months in our lives! But we wouldn't have it any other way. Looking at those dates reminds me of everything we've gone through. The tough conversations that ultimately helped us grow closer, the differences we've embraced, and the countless sno-cones we've eaten. Everything that makes us the couple we are, and we've only been in each others lives for two years.
If there was ever a situation to describe both of us PERFECTLY, this is it. The Proposal.
If you know me, you know that I am always looking forward to the next thing. We can be in the middle of having the time of our lives, and I'm wondering about what's next. I joke that I get bored easily and have to be multitasking, but it's probably because I like change. I like the newness. Not the unknown, just the fact that there is always something around the corner.
With that being said, I am also nosey. And when I find something out or am given a relative time frame, I fixate on it. For example, when you find out in April that your boyfriend has asked for your dad's blessing to propose, and you and your boyfriend have talked about a summer-ish wedding, you tend to fixate (or become a psycho as I did). For a whole month, I pretty much only thought and talked about getting engaged. I might've even started planning a few things, even though there has been no proposal, no ring, and no date set. Yes, I was...still am... THAT girl. And I embrace(d) her wholeheartedly!!!
Well, of course, there were all these things happening "behind the scenes" that I was unaware of. Which only made each day where I wasn't asked the "magic question" even more confusing. Colin was trying to plan the perfect proposal, even though I was being the most annoying person in the world. I know at least once, and probably more, I told him I didn't care about a ring or special production, just ask the question! Which is not what you say to someone trying to do something special for you, by the way.
I was convinced we were going to have to wait a year to get married (being a teacher I didn't want to get married during the school year). Until one weekend. While my parents were in town one weekend, we decided to go to dinner with both sets of parents. This was it. I just knew it! I was going to dinner a single lady and was going to leave an engaged woman! I was SO excited.
That is not what happened.
It was just a regular dinner with both our families. Nothing super special.
(Now, my favorite part of the story.) The next morning, after this uneventful dinner, I am about to go pick my parents up from their hotel and we're going to run errands or something. As I'm getting ready, Colin calls me from his Saturday job. He needs me to go to his house RIGHT THAT SECOND and get him some new pants because he has ripped a hole in the ones he is wearing. I ask why he can't just leave and do it himself since he is less than 5 minutes from his house, and I am about 15 away. He goes into this long explanation that frankly I wasn't listening to because I was still upset (read: fuming) about the night before. (Yes, I am acting like a child.) After a few minutes I finally tell him I'll go get him some pants and I'll be there shortly...
Okay, so I might have taken my time getting ready. I might have still swung by to pick up my parents, without telling them we were in a slight hurry. And I might have taken my sweet time getting to his house. Did I mention I might have ignored about five phone calls from him during this time? I know, I know. I'm a horribly, immature person. But I'm working on it!!
Anyways, we get to his house, and I run inside to get the pants. As I'm backing out of the driveway, my mom says "uhh...he's here." I turn around and see him basically running down the driveway....WITH A PUPPY IN HIS ARMS.
I get out of the car, forget I've ever been upset at this man, because HELLO! HE'S HOLDING A PUPPY!!! We walk to the backyard and I'm now holding the puppy. He starts talking, and then he's down on one knee.
For the record, I was 110% SURPRISED! After all the drama I had created the past month, after all the controlling I was trying to do, after everything, HE PULLED IT OFF! I was completely surprised.
I, of course, said yes.
And then we realized, we left my parents in the car.... And the pants I so desperately had to get for him, were now hanging on the fence. Turns out there were no ripped pants, but that was probably the only way I was going to drive to his house on a day I thought he was at work.
To summarize: I was 45 minutes late to my proposal because I was being petty. And I accidentally brought my parents along. Also, I apparently don't have the same views on what constitutes an "emergency" as others, so fair warning if you need me. (Just kidding, I'll be there!)
We have come a long way since then. While I still have my "Director of the Universe" hat, I try not to wear it as often. We work on making decisions together as a couple, and I work on submitting to my husband, just as the Bible instructs.
"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior." Ephesians 5:22-23 (NIV)
We have learned to accept and work with the difference we each have. And to look at situations from a perspective other than our own. I think our differences are what makes us better. Where I fall short, he excels.
This year has taught us both more than expected. But it has also brought us closer together.
I believe marriage is choice, and each day I choose to be married to him. Even on the days where it's hard, I know it wouldn't be this good without him. He is exactly what I need, and God gave him to me at just the right time.
He is already the absolute best dad to our daughter, and that relationship is going to be so rewarding to watch grow.
I continue to look forward as our life continues. The newest chapter just a few weeks away!
Happy First Anniversary Colin!
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